I wonder if anyone else went through some major personal ethical and moral changes over 2020?
Here, I went from being way too liberal/sex-positive to the point where I have no doubt that my pro-ship stances or NSFW fics or my sense of humor probably made people feel uncomfy or take me for a creep, to being sex-repulsed, kink critical, fiction critical. (I don't call myself an anti because I'm not totally in agreement with anti tactics or the need to punish others for creating bad fictional content, I think people need to be educated and made aware about the harm of glorifying/not warning for and gating off certain things in media, not harassed or punished), I'm now opposed to publicly posting NSFW fic/rp/jokes (all of my public fic now stops at the bedroom door, I only go nsfw if I am privately writing for an audience of one person and we have both verified our age, our triggers, our stances, etcetera and can communicate with each other to immediately call boundaries. Some of my old stuff I orphaned on AO3 may still be kicking around - please don't see me as a hypocrite, back at the time I debated whether to orphan fics or delete... and now I can't delete ones I chose to orphan). Most of all, now, I believe that IRL sex belongs only within a longstanding relationship such as marriage, between two people 25 or over - and that it's a deadly serious thing, not a joking matter or something to just be flippant over or throw around everywhere.
And I'm actually really thankful that I have adopted these stances, as long as it took me to work my way around to them (because I initially rejected the idea of a strict stance regarding sexuality due to the usual homophobia/transphobia bundled with the concepts of sexual morality and restraint, and due to the hate sex-negativity and kinkshaming gets on the internet) seeing all the scandals that pop every other day on the internet and... I just feel like to reject sex and reject kink/NSFW/pr0n and a culture so drenched in immorality is to take a real stand for myself, to tell people that being gay and trans ISN'T being a degenerate sick fuck and we can be better at restraint and ethics than the homophobes.
I also quit smoking as of late 2019 and cheated a bit when I went out pre-pandemic in like December and January 2019, but had to absolutely quit once the pandemic began, and I've also realized that's an ethical and moral issue and I must stay quit because if I smoke again, I will be putting my own body and that of others at risk and being a bad example if someone sees me and fund an industry based on killing people... I will literally be responsible for deaths if I ever light up again, and I possibly already carry the deaths of many on me for the ten years I did smoke and support the tobacco industry by doing so...
I've just been taking a deep moral inventory of myself and finding things to change and I wonder if anyone else has done this in 2020 over the pandemic? Change their entire ethical and moral views, possibly even to something the past you would have seen as prudish or silly or something else?
(now if only I could go vegetarian - that's something else that's been poking at my conscience a long time, but I haven't been able to make myself do it yet...)
Here, I went from being way too liberal/sex-positive to the point where I have no doubt that my pro-ship stances or NSFW fics or my sense of humor probably made people feel uncomfy or take me for a creep, to being sex-repulsed, kink critical, fiction critical. (I don't call myself an anti because I'm not totally in agreement with anti tactics or the need to punish others for creating bad fictional content, I think people need to be educated and made aware about the harm of glorifying/not warning for and gating off certain things in media, not harassed or punished), I'm now opposed to publicly posting NSFW fic/rp/jokes (all of my public fic now stops at the bedroom door, I only go nsfw if I am privately writing for an audience of one person and we have both verified our age, our triggers, our stances, etcetera and can communicate with each other to immediately call boundaries. Some of my old stuff I orphaned on AO3 may still be kicking around - please don't see me as a hypocrite, back at the time I debated whether to orphan fics or delete... and now I can't delete ones I chose to orphan). Most of all, now, I believe that IRL sex belongs only within a longstanding relationship such as marriage, between two people 25 or over - and that it's a deadly serious thing, not a joking matter or something to just be flippant over or throw around everywhere.
And I'm actually really thankful that I have adopted these stances, as long as it took me to work my way around to them (because I initially rejected the idea of a strict stance regarding sexuality due to the usual homophobia/transphobia bundled with the concepts of sexual morality and restraint, and due to the hate sex-negativity and kinkshaming gets on the internet) seeing all the scandals that pop every other day on the internet and... I just feel like to reject sex and reject kink/NSFW/pr0n and a culture so drenched in immorality is to take a real stand for myself, to tell people that being gay and trans ISN'T being a degenerate sick fuck and we can be better at restraint and ethics than the homophobes.
I also quit smoking as of late 2019 and cheated a bit when I went out pre-pandemic in like December and January 2019, but had to absolutely quit once the pandemic began, and I've also realized that's an ethical and moral issue and I must stay quit because if I smoke again, I will be putting my own body and that of others at risk and being a bad example if someone sees me and fund an industry based on killing people... I will literally be responsible for deaths if I ever light up again, and I possibly already carry the deaths of many on me for the ten years I did smoke and support the tobacco industry by doing so...
I've just been taking a deep moral inventory of myself and finding things to change and I wonder if anyone else has done this in 2020 over the pandemic? Change their entire ethical and moral views, possibly even to something the past you would have seen as prudish or silly or something else?
(now if only I could go vegetarian - that's something else that's been poking at my conscience a long time, but I haven't been able to make myself do it yet...)
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